Chapter 8 & 9 blog post for Without A Map

          "My mother lives a separate and intensely private life.  She loves me.  But she withholds herself, guards herself,  and I know the boundaries clearly." (Page 127).

I chose this quote because I personally would hate to have my mom constantly hiding from me and hiding hidden talents from me.  Just thinking about my mom hiding stuff from me makes me upset because i have an open relationship with my mom and i wouldn't want that to suddenly change to a secretive one.  Sometimes she tries to hide stuff from me and my sister but i usually always end up finding out what it is.  I feel that everyone needs to be able to have an open relationship where they can say anything to at least one of their parents because no matter what they are always going to be there for you and I think it builds this level of trust between the two that cannot be broken.  I understand why her mother would keep most of her life a secret from her daughter though.  She wouldn't want her daughter to see weakness within her and think she isn't strong enough to function without her father in the picture.

Without a Map Shunning post

April 11th, 2016

“Shunning is supposed to keep bad things from happening in a community.  But it doesn’t correct the life gone wrong.  It can only expose the transgression to a very raw light, use it as a measure, a warn to others…” (xi-xii).

I feel that shunning someone keep the sin that they have done to themselves, because if the sinner is off by themselves they would not be able to effect those who have not yet sinned and have the sinner influence them in a bad way . But can't we lean from those who have sinned? From her getting pregnant at such a young age and being all alone through it is extremely difficult. I wouldn't wish anything like that even on my worse enemy. Being an outcast in a place where you grew up with all your friends around you looking at you and avoiding you everywhere you go is so unimaginable to me. I would be so depressed and most likely leave because i would know its all my fault and there is nothing i could do to change so to try and fix it i would leave and try to start a new life where people would appreciate me and help me when i need it most instead of watching me struggle through my rough patches in life. if that was me i would hate everyone who i though were my friends and family because in the end they were the ones who would hurt me the most.